Returning from California where I was to commemorate the second anniversary of my father's death. It's funny how you can go from being unbearably sad one year to dealing with the sadness productively the next. One of my death of a parent books said two to five years was the initial grief period. I think I am through that. You never really get over it, but you get used to the new normal without your loved one.
This anniversary in particular I started thinking about the appropriate way to remember him on this day. I wanted to go to a baseball game, but my mom vetoed. I guess I just wanted to do something that he and I used to enjoy doing together. Not sure that baseball was it past the Bash Brothers of the late 80's/early 90's.
On his birthday, I eat a piece of his favorite cake, and that's appropriate to celebrate his life. It's hard to figure out what is a positive way to remember someone you've loved and lost, especially on the anniversary of his death. Maybe wearing all black and just remembering is the right thing.
One thing I wish he was here for would be to discuss the Jrue Holiday situation. Jrue was a star recruit last season at UCLA, but he never lived up to the hype. He entered the draft but didn't hire an agent, at first. He had a press conference like he was the brightest star in all of Westwood and sort of acted like a jerk. Then, the fans waited, though we all knew he would leave. So last week he calls a press conference to announce he's hired an agent and is going in the draft. Except he hadn't even told Coach Howland ahead of time. In one sense its like a bad relationship -- if he doesn't want to be at UCLA, just go. On the other hand, he acted like a total ego maniac. Are you serious Jrue? Best of luck, and glad your negative energy and selfish attitude are gone. I saw the promise of something better with him, but I can also see him never being all that. Sad sad sad. How do you turn fans into haters? This is one way.
Go BRUINS!
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